Dancing Naked

Music for the Day – Slow Dancing in a Burning Room by John Mayer

Link to music/lyrics – http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/johnmayer/slowdancinginaburningroom.html

So many times, especially in long term relationships, we hide behind what we thought we should be. We hide behind the fake smiles and fake laughs and fake faces when we know that connection is lost and love is hard to find. Is there a time when two people who love deep just stop?

Love, real love, is a choice. That first meet, early play feeling that we call love is just a chemical reaction, but oh, how that early love can draw us in and create the illusion of lasting chosen love. Yeah, we all have heard it before – love takes work. And, yes, it does! But that chemical reaction is so important to creating the desire to choose love.

Relationships are hard and without the kick ass, body shaking, heart stopping love/lust magic, it makes it harder. Seriously, why choose to stay in love if there is no chemical reaction or reason to stay in love.

Here is the reality of the whole thing. If the magic is gone, and both realize it, then decisions have to be made. Do you stay as is, or do you move on? Can you stay as is? That is probably the hardest question to answer. If the answer is yes, you stay, then you are already prepared for the work ahead.

Just as in the song, honest, raw emotions and feelings have to be shared. Turning to each other to share, really share, inner deep thoughts and heart wrenching words is what may be the deciding factor.

Instead of slow dancing, how about picking up the beat a little? If the choice is to stay in love, then I say, instead of recreating what is broken just to keep the slow dance going when the room is on fire, start over with each other. Start that process all over and fall in love/lust magic all over again. Leave behind the old memories of what blocked the magic. If necessary, write down all those things that got in the way and burn it! Get rid of it! Start over.

Create a new first date and create the new thrill of love/lust magic. Do some sexting with each other during the day. Create some excitement. And don’t let anyone get in the way of creating a new relationship – a new love.

I’m here to tell you – it’s better the second time around!