Music for the Day – Anybody Home – Thomas Ian Nicholas
Link to Song (no lyrics today) – https://myspace.com/thomasiannicholas/music/song/anybody-home-67595522-74184386
I guess you get it by now. A lot of the songs on my playlist are about relationships, but not all. This one particular artist is an actor that was on American Pie and is now creating amazing music, like this song. He writes his own music, and his music is awesome.
As I listened to this song, I thought of my own relationship and of all the times in our partnership that one of us just left and shut down for a while leaving the other wondering if it was coming back. There was never a leaving the relationship physically, but emotionally, at times, the light just was not left on. Standing there “at the door” the other was left wondering what would happen. Fortunately, both of us are invested in this partnership – this marriage – that walking away would have been the easiest path.
But, we have been committed to stay – that is sometimes the hardest part of a relationship. Staying when the other has already left at times feels painful and hurtful, but staying proving the commitment tells the other that the heart is still there. Hard? You bet it is! But, in the end, if both are equally committed to make it work, it is worth it. What results is a new found relationship – one in which both are there, not just one.
What happens if one leaves or it just does not work? Then the attempt to stay teaches a valuable lesson and moving forward is the only path to take. For myself, we have both always decided to stay and fight and through the battle and struggle to regain our territory, so to speak, we found a newness that was not present before. That has made it worth it.
For my friends whose relationships have ended or are ending, the love and experiences shared will always be a part of their lives and something that will become a part of who they become. There is no wrong or right in whether you stay or leave. It just is and should never be compared to another. I can only speak for myself and what makes me stay and fight when one of us leaves emotionally. I remember the first time I laid eyes on him and I remember the first time he gave me that smile and that first kiss on the forehead. Yeah, it’s about that!
Dancing Naked 