There for the Taking

09 Oct 2023 Leave a comment

by Camille in My Thoughts Exactly Tags: , , , ,

Music Muse of the Day – That’s When I Knew by Alicia Keys

Link to lyrics and song – http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/aliciakeys/thatswheniknew.html

Some mornings the music seems just right and perfect, and some just do not make sense at all.  This morning is one that just does not make sense at all.  It certainly was not the emotions I was feeling, but I leave it up to Source and open to the possibilities when I do this.  That was my commitment from the very beginning. 

What this song brings up to me just in this moment is a time to think and reframe.  I am on the cusp of a birthday that inches me ever closer to an age that I had always considered old.  Age does not bother me at all. I may be nearing 60, but I feel like I’m nearing 40.  I do not feel older, and am always surprised at myself when I look in the mirror.  You see, in my own inner vision of myself, I still see the 30 year old woman.  I still look younger than my age, but I am still surprised when I see the lines and wrinkles that have taken up residence, not to mention the gray hair just making its appearance.  This brings me to the biggest milestone of my life coming up.

In just a few months, my husband and I will turn the page and celebrate 40 years of marriage – now that can make any woman feel old.  I really do not know how we made this far, but as the song says,

That’s when I knew I fell in love
That’s when I knew you were the one
That’s when I knew you stole my heart away from me
That’s when I knew that I was sunk
That was the moment that I knew I fell in love

When he kissed me for the very first time on the forehead, I knew I was sunk.  I was only 18, but I fell hard.  It took longer for him – he was, after all, 20.  For him, it was the next weekend when he heard me sing in church for the very first time.  We were both sunk, and we have been ever since.

Now don’t get me wrong!  Our life has not been perfect and neither has our marriage.  But I am not here to write about that.  This morning is a time to reflect how much of those old feelings are still there.  And to make the point that, even in the worst of times, staying in love is a choice.  They say that falling in love is a chemical reaction.  Who knows, but this I do know.  Staying in love is a choice.  Part of that choice is acknowledging the physical reactions and acting on those reactions.  Part of the choice is exploring new dimensions of your love – new dimensions meaning new ways of showing each other love.  Not in flowers and cards, although that is nice.  But show each other in meaningful ways that lets the other know that they still do it for you. 

That slight touch of the hand, the brush of the hair, the hug and kiss at the most random times.  Those are important.  If your partner no longer does these things, and it is what you desire, show him or her this blog.  Because without showing lust in your relationship, love could die.  Lust in love is an important part of a relationship.  Humans need that intimate touch and that knowing that when the other could be with anyone else, they still lust after you just as they did way back then, when you first knew it. 

Do not become too comfortable in the other.  If you are not showing lust, ask yourself why.  Really go inside.  Today is about intimate relationships and keeping the lust/love alive!  It is about stealing the other’s heart and keeping is safe and sound.  If he or she has not stolen your heart lately, make it known that it’s there for the taking. 

The Second Time Around

08 Apr 2014 2 Comments

by Camille in My Thoughts Exactly Tags: , , , , , ,

Slow_Dancing_In_A_Burning_Room_by_CriedARiverMusic for the Day – Slow Dancing in a Burning Room by John Mayer

Link to music/lyrics – http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/johnmayer/slowdancinginaburningroom.html

So many times, especially in long term relationships, we hide behind what we thought we should be. We hide behind the fake smiles and fake laughs and fake faces when we know that connection is lost and love is hard to find. Is there a time when two people who love deep just stop?

Love, real love, is a choice. That first meet, early play feeling that we call love is just a chemical reaction, but oh, how that early love can draw us in and create the illusion of lasting chosen love. Yeah, we all have heard it before – love takes work. And, yes, it does! But that chemical reaction is so important to creating the desire to choose love.

Relationships are hard and without the kick ass, body shaking, heart stopping love/lust magic, it makes it harder. Seriously, why choose to stay in love if there is no chemical reaction or reason to stay in love.

Here is the reality of the whole thing. If the magic is gone, and both realize it, then decisions have to be made. Do you stay as is, or do you move on? Can you stay as is? That is probably the hardest question to answer. If the answer is yes, you stay, then you are already prepared for the work ahead.

Just as in the song, honest, raw emotions and feelings have to be shared. Turning to each other to share, really share, inner deep thoughts and heart wrenching words is what may be the deciding factor.

Instead of slow dancing, how about picking up the beat a little? If the choice is to stay in love, then I say, instead of recreating what is broken just to keep the slow dance going when the room is on fire, start over with each other. Start that process all over and fall in love/lust magic all over again. Leave behind the old memories of what blocked the magic. If necessary, write down all those things that got in the way and burn it! Get rid of it! Start over.

Create a new first date and create the new thrill of love/lust magic. Do some sexting with each other during the day. Create some excitement. And don’t let anyone get in the way of creating a new relationship – a new love.

I’m here to tell you – it’s better the second time around!

It’s Cosmasmic!

11 Feb 2014 Leave a comment

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Music Muse of the Day – Blues on Purpose by Nina Simone

Link to music – http://youtu.be/xm7v62dRq4U (no lyrics on this one)

No lyrics on this today, and none are needed. Today is about sitting back, relaxing, being chill, just being.  We have been through the grime and the muck for the last few weeks together, and we have danced naked in our own beauty and worth.  So, today I am reminded to just be – on purpose!

When we are on our “spiritual path” and discovering those “ah-hah!” moments, we get so caught up in the I’m so spiritual paradigm that we forget to just experience.  It’s not all seriousness and holier than thou-ness.  We gotta break it up, turn it on, and have some fun, people!  We gotta sit back and listen and play and explore.  We gotta enjoy pleasure for pure pleasure, and that includes bringing lust and love back together as partners.

In a discussion I’ve entered on Facebook, the question was asked when love and lust became separated and when did having sex become so obliterated by the sex is dirty crowd.  When did physical pleasure become so bad?  As Courtney Walsh said, we know about patriarchy and matriarchy and all of that story, and we, as “spiritual people” are so quick to talk about energy and energy exchange with the wrong person and blah, blah, blah.  We all know this and understand it, but the question is why is it so wrong to purely enjoy a physical pleasure just for the sake of enjoyment.

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not saying to be promiscuous or engage in affairs or indiscriminate sex, unless that is what is mutually consensual for you and your partner.  What I am saying is to get the sex is dirty-ness out of the bedroom or whichever room you choose, and really Be with your partner.  Lust after your partner – open yourselves up to the pure, raw emotion of two beings that honor and love each other.  Allow yourself and allow your partner to see the beauty of joining together for the pleasure of uniting – the pleasure of lusting.

In the discussion thread started by Courtney A. Walsh, she states, “We’re so used to porn or preachers on this topic that we do not even explore or discover what feels good for us in this arena. That’s the greatest self-inflicted violence perpetrated by both MEN AND WOMEN” (Walsh, 2014).  There no truer words than these.  Love and Lust belong together and should be a part of pleasure between two partners.  As Walsh stated, “It is about energy, not technique” (Walsh, 2014).  That is what is so lost now.

We need to bring love and lust back together as partners.  Energy exchange and communication between partners. Exploration and mutual enjoyment. Opening to all possibilities. Stretching limits. Loving ourselves. Honoring ourselves. It’s all a part of it.  It is all a part of Dancing Naked together – whole and complete and having that cosmasmic experience with someone we recognize as part of our whole and our connection to the Cosmic Source.

So, maybe instead of Blues on Purpose, it should be Lust on Purpose?  Ya think?

Resource:

Walsh, C. A.  (2014, Feb. 10).  LUST and LOVE discussion thread.  Facebook.  Retrieved from https://www.facebook.com/loonybus/posts/10152172128550490?comment_id=31632358&notif_t=comment_mention

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