Turning Point by Nina Simone
Link to song and lyrics – http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/ninasimone/turningpoint.html
While this song is about racism and the highlights how children and adults views of differences are so diametrically opposed, there is a stanza that speaks to me on a very personal level. But, before I get to that, I do want to hit upon the gist of the song since differences are a big part of the thoughts and emotions evoked with Nina’s song.
She sang a song so pretty
On the Jungle Gym
When Jimmy tried to hurt her
I punched him in the chin
An underlying tone of how some people with differences are viewed is what makes this song so meaningful. You see, when there is a general disrespect for others regardless of gender, race, lifestyle, or belief systems, there is a real turning point in a life that is bullied because of differences. That is what is so glaring about this song – it speaks volumes about bullies. And there are many layers of bullying.
There is the obvious physical bully as spoken of in the song and that I experienced as a little girl. But, perhaps, one of the most insidious bullies is one who uses mental and emotional actions to make someone feel small, insignificant, and unworthy. I have experienced that as a little girl as well, but have experienced it as a woman. And my experiences have been from those who called themselves religious or spiritual and used that lie as their crutch to fall back on justifying their own actions.
It is no secret that I am a little different, and have always been different. Oh, I tried to fit into the belief system in which I was raised, but in the end, keeping up such a façade in the face of hypocrisy was more than I could stomach. I have been fortunate enough to have a relationship that honored my inner differences and never ridiculed me or tried to “save” me. Instead, he recognized the beauty that was deep inside.
However, there have been others that have tried to fit me into their mold and bully their way into my psyche and into my life all the while feeding off my insecurities. Fortunately, I was strong enough to say no! And I was strong enough to stay the course with what I feel is my truth and integrity. And that is where I am today.
Although I did not write for International Women’s Day, I take this moment to say to all women – do not let the bullies tear you down and make you feel stupid or less valuable. We are not perfect, but it is our imperfections that make us beautiful and worthy. If someone is in your life trying to bully you into being what they desire, refuse and take a stand. If someone is in your life that does not see your value or worth and continuously puts you on a roller coaster of emotional rides, don’t buy the ticket! If someone is in your life and demands you to give more than they are willing, that is a form of bullying and you can turn your back and walk away!
Remember the signs in the zoo that say “Don’t feed the animals!” Bullies are animals – don’t feed them – the more you feed them, the more they demand. And to you bullies out there, back off, bucko! We’ve got your number!
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