Music of the Day – What I Wanted to Say by Colbie Caillat
Link to music/lyrics – http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/colbiecaillat/whatiwantedtosay.html
Sometimes the worst thing is not saying what needs to be said for fear of how the other person in a relationship will receive what is said. Confusing? It sure is, and when those words are not spoken and left unsaid, we are left with the emotions that are conveyed in this song.
That being said (pun intended), it is also important to honor what we are feeling inside. A very wise young woman (I can say that because she is about 20 years younger than me) wrote an amazing insightful post today that if there is work involved in a relationship, then it is not a real relationship. After reading her post (thank you, Courtney A. Walsh), I paused to think about this.
Then, of course, because that is the energy with which I find myself today, Colbie’s song showed up on my shuffle playlist. So, here is what I know about this whole relationship thing.
When one partner no longer is all in, or when one partner takes the relationship for granted believing that regardless of actions or lack of actions everything will be ok, this is where work comes in. What happens is that the other either moves from a loving heartfelt place into a place in which change and adjusting to the other’s attitude, and this is work. And this is where the relationship is no longer a living, breathing, heart place, but a place that becomes tiring and hard and difficult. When both partners are all in and do and say those little things that mean so much, then work is not required. It becomes play and fun and heart felt!
This is when it moves from being a daily workplace to an honoring and sacred relationship in which both are all in and want to play. Understand, that when those little things that are challenges are thrown in the path of both, because they are all in, those little challenges do not become gigantic walls that either have to be blown up or climbed over – work! The question now has to be asked – can both look at each other and laugh and enjoy and play? Or do they have to adjust to the other’s attitude? Can they both just be in the moment together with honest love and just holding?
Yeah, relationships shouldn’t be work – they should be play – together!
What will you not say today? Can you just take the chance and say what is in your heart? Or will you just sit quietly, stew in your own juices, and say, “I should have done something?”
Dancing Naked 